Yesterday, I watched a movie called "What Maisie Knew". I rented it because I'd seen the trailer on YouTube while watching random Alexander Skarsgard clips (I can sense your judgment....) and I thought it looked pretty good.
This movie was absolutely HEART BREAKING. Basically, it's a movie about a little girl who's parents start a custody battle over her. Her Dad takes her to get back at her Mom, who is an utter train wreck. The Dad marries the nanny, so the Mom retaliates and marries some random friend. The Dad takes off to move to London, the Mom just drops the kid at the restaurant her new husband works at and he's not even there........just watch it.
This movie made me think of some things in terms of my own kids. Maisie's parents fought. A lot. All the time. And they didn't try to hide it from her, to shield her from their hateful words. And that just broke my heart, because you could see the pain, the confusion on her little face.
I'm not saying that The Hubs and I don't fight. We do. Sometimes, they are little arguments, sometimes....they are doozies. But we always...ALWAYS.....try to shield the kids from hearing them. We aren't always successful, but we try really hard to not let them hear our words.
In this movie (it's also a book by Henry James....you can get it for free right now if you have a Kindle), this little girl had parents who were selfish. They put THEMSELVES before her. That's one thing The Hubs and I NEVER EVER EVER do. EVER. Our kids are absolute, #1 in our lives. Everything we do...it's for them.
So many parents aren't like that and it's sad. They are selfish. The use the kids as a tool to hurt the other party. The kid is a prop. Their use is masked, they make the child think it's love when it's not.
This movie really made me realize that, in the rare moments that The Hubs and I have a spat, be it big or little, that we need to be more aware of the little ears and eyes that are around us. They see and hear more than we think.
If you get the chance, watch the movie (you can borrow it from Redbox) and then come back here and let me know what you think.