I have dreams.
Dreams of one day owning a really nice house, driving a newer, nicer vehicle, sending my kids to school in nice clothes......
Dreams a lot of people who grew up poor have.
I talk a big game a lot, about how I'm going to save for this or for that, but at the end of the day, when I get money, I spend it so fast, it's not even kinda funny.
When The Hubs and I first met, I would get annoyed with him for spending money thoughtlessly. I wasn't taking the time to realize that I was doing it too, only at that time, I was generally spending on the kids and not on myself. I'm one of those people who, when I spend on myself, I feel guilty because what I bought for me could have went to the kids. It's gotten to be so bad that I once wore a pair of shoes with holes in them because I couldn't bring myself to spend money on me.
Maybe it's because, growing up with a single mom, I didn't have a lot. She tried, she really did, but she had bills to pay and had to support me and my little brother alone. So now, as a mother myself, I try to give my kids the world and my needs and wants often fall to the wayside.
The Hubs and I try to save, we try to budget to allow for savings, we try to be smart. But it rarely happens.
So why am I okay with that?
Because even though we are stupid with money, our kids don't suffer. They have all of their needs and most of their wants.
You can't take it with you when you go, though it would be nice to leave a little and maybe one day, we will wisen up and actually do that. But for right now? We are enjoying what we can.
So....who's the spender and who's the saver? Neither of us. Makes life easier that way!
This post is part of the secret subject swap. My subject is "If opposites attract and most relationships consist of one spender and one saver, how does that relate to your relationship? Is it a difficult or good balance?" and it was submitted by Never Ever Give Up Hope. Do me a solid and see what my friends have for you?
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