Friday, February 10, 2017

The Innocence In A Date

I recently read a blog post by a woman who is against daddy-daughter dates. She says, in this blog post that these dates "aren’t sweet. They aren’t cute. They’re creepy, and they seek to enforce patriarchal notions of femininity".
I'm sorry, but what a load of crap! This chick sounds like a militant feminist wanna-be. Who thinks these things?!?!?!?!?! She claims that these dates teach young girls that men have to do everything for them. She says that we don't need a "big, bad patriarchal figure to hold the door or compliment our inner beauty". 

Daddy's are supposed to be a girl's knight in shining armor. It's not about romance or anything like that. It's about fostering a relationship and bond between father and daughter. This chick is villainizing something that is meant to be a sweet moment. And for what? All in the name of "feminism"?

I absolutely love the idea of Daddy-Daughter dates. I feel like it is a great chance to have some one on one time. If you have teenage daughters, I feel like is is a great way to make any possible problems right as rain again.

It's not about giving a girl a false expectation that the have to be submissive. If anything, I think it makes women more empowered, because they have a standard in which they want to hold their future dates to. Treat me right and this will work. Treat me like dirt and..well...I'll sick my fairy Godmother on  you! 

In my opinion, that whole post has an aroma of man-hate that is stinking it up. Sorry lady, but your obviously dislike of the male gender is showing in blaring lights. She claims to have two boys, which makes me wonder if she will teach them to be gentlemen that we all want or if she will tell them that "empowered women open their own doors!"

Either way, I want my girls to know that they are to be treated with respect and dignity. I want my girls to know that they can be powerful, emboldened females and still have the door opened for them and their chair pulled out for them. That demonstrates a strength like no other. I see that and I don't think "oh, that poor, poor submissive woman!" No, I see that and I think "that is a woman who demands respect and that is a man that is willing to give her what she demands!" 
I want my son to know that women are meant to be treated with respect, that we are a powerful creature and that it is a beautiful thing to go that extra mile to show you care.

Maybe that's just me. Maybe I feel like, as an "empowered woman" who is in an "equal partnership" marriage, having something as small as the door being held open for me or the chair pulled out for me, I am being treated with respect. I love it when my husband does that for me. It's a great feeling.

But what do I know? I'm just a "passive-submissive" rug.....

Today’s post is a writing challenge. This is how it works: participating bloggers picked 4 – 6 words or short phrases for someone else to craft into a post. All words must be used at least once and all the posts will be unique as each writer has received their own set of words. That’s the challenge, here’s a fun twist; no one who’s participating knows who got their words and in what direction the writer will take them. Until now.

My words were "Love ~ Fairy ~ Romance ~ Knight in shining armor ~ Aroma ~ Right as Rain" and they were submitted by someone who I think will appreciate how I used them, Jules over at The Bergham Chronicles.

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  1. I bet that same woman complains about men who aren't involved enough in the parenting of their children. Some people can take anything good and turn it into something to argue about. smh.

  2. Oh, I am so with you on this topic!
    I love this quote: "The world has enough women who are tough; we need women who are tender. There are enough women who are coarse; we need women who are kind. There are enough women who are rude; we need women who are refined. We have enough women of fame and fortune; we need more women of faith. We have enough greed; we need more goodness. We have enough vanity; we need more virtue. We have enough popularity; we need more purity."
    Women need to be strong, yes, but respected, too. And one never gains respect by demanding it like a screaming toddler. One gains it by giving it. Daddy-daughter dates teach respect. Companionship. communication. Love.
    Really liked your take on this, Sarah Michelle!
    And great job with the words!

  3. I think that they are sweet. It has been showed that the way a dad treats his daughter has a direct result with how she will see herself. If a girl doesn't have a loving father she will never grow up never knowing her own worth or at least how she should be treated. It's sad that someone would write much believe such idiocy!

  4. Makes me NOT wanting to read that post!
    My Dad and I were not very close once I became a teenager, however he took me on a short trip to the Oktoberfest in Munich when I was 14. I guess that counts as a daughter daddy date. In any case it's been an unforgettable experience!

  5. I found this interesting and thought provoking I have a close bond with my dad but we are not that close and yes I know how that sounds but he is dad and I can't put into words why I feel close to him I just do but we rarely talk unlike me and mum who talk all the time.

    I wish you had a follow via email option because I would like to come back and read more of your posts


So....what did you think? And are you THAT Sarah Michelle?